Inside: Labels aren’t just on jars. We often label our kids in detrimental ways. But what if we switched our perspective? What if we changed the way we saw our kids? This one word that is crushing your child’s confidence is easy to change. Here’s how…
Were you the nerdy bookworm, the class clown, the cocky jock, the band geek? Were you the “good kid” or the “bad kid?”
I was the bossy know-it-all, it’s nice to meet you.
We’ve been getting labeled and labeling others for so long, it’s engrained into our everyday behaviors. The labels others chose for us, and the labels we chose for ourselves, tend to stick with us years after they should. It’s kept a great many of us busy paying our therapist bills.
And now that we’re parents, we’re consciously or subconsciously doing the same thing to our kiddos.
One Simple Word that Could be Crushing Your Child’s Confidence
It’s so easy to label our kids. One simple word can mean everything.
He’s the smart one.
She’s my wild one.
He’s the artist of the family.
She’s the athletic one.
But the words we’re choosing can be detrimental.
Our words become our kid’s inner monologues.
We get into their heads, just like our parents got into ours.
We yield a tremendous amount of power-for lack of a better word- over our children’s thoughts about themselves. So we either set our kids up to be self-conscious or we set them up to be confident. They will either have self-doubt or self-assurance.
And I want my kids to not just survive their childhood.
I want them to thrive in it.
One Simple Shift to Boost Your Child’s Confidence
I want them to feel like they are Superkids. To know they are Superkids. I want no doubt to creep in. My job is to empower them so they embrace and love who they really are.
How can I change the way I see their behavior?
How can I reframe the way I interact with my children when they’re exhibiting-ahem-less than desired behaviors?
By changing the way we see our children.
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So many of our kids are misunderstood.
As we’re racing to soccer practice then home to get schoolwork done and put dinner on the table, our child has an epic sized meltdown over broccoli. We’re almost as tired and cranky as they are. And our patience is shot. Just eat the damned broccoli.
It’s easy to roll our eyes and label them as obnoxious or picky or bratty.
We tend label our kids based on ALL of their negative behaviors: bossy, wild, mean, meek, anxious, careless, dishonest, naughty, impulsive, greedy, stubborn, lazy, moody, sneaky.
But are our kids really those things? Or is that just our perception?
A lot of it comes down to how we label our children and how we talk about their behavior. My perspective shapes how I see them, how I react to them, and how I interact with my kids on a daily basis.
Is my eldest daughter really “bossy?”
She tells others what to do. She has a strong opinion. She encourages others to join in. If they’re unsure, she’ll tell them exactly what to do. She has a plan, and she makes it happen. Is that bossy or is she just a natural born leader?
A boss girl.
A strong, determined thoughtful young lady. She’s a superkid.
Is my middle guy really a “messy kid?”
His room is always a disaster, five seconds after he cleans it. He leaves a trail of Legos, markers, and tape wherever he has been. I will not walk into his room barefoot in fear of tripping over his latest project. So is he really “messy?” Or is he creative?
A creator. A builder, an architect of the future, an engineer.
He is going to move mountains with his creative mind and his inventions. He is a superkid.
Is my youngest a “wild, rambunctious, difficult, strong-willed, out of control rebel?”
Or is she adventurous and spirited? She will stand her ground when she feels wronged. She will demand what she feels is only right. She is determined and fierce.
She is strong and refuses to follow a path she does not want to take. She will instead forge her own paths in life. She is a superkid.
Labels for our kids can be beneficial, but only if we’re setting our children up so their inner monologues allow them to see themselves as the superkids they really are.
If our labels let our kids walk taller, prouder, and more confidently into this world, then they can focus on being true to themselves and being the rockstars they have the potential to be.
If we label our kids anything, let us label them as
Because they really are Superkids. We just have to make sure they know it every day.
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