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Make Hanukkah More Meaningful This Year with These 8 Ideas

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Inside: Are you looking for ways to make Hanukkah more meaningful for your family? Whether you’re an interfaith family or just celebrate Hanukkah, these 8 ideas for the 8 nights of Hanukkah will make the holiday more special and more meaningful.


My dad dropped me off at Hebrew School and as I got out, he gasped. I was still wearing the Christmas sweater I had worn to school. I sheepishly handed it over to him as he drove away.

I’m a nice little Jewish girl who also happens to celebrate and love Christmas.

And now my kids celebrate both holidays too. We light the menorah and put up a Christmas tree.  We make my very religious great-grandma’s Christmas sugar cookie recipe with my mom’s Hanukkah cookie cutouts. And I hang dreidel ornaments on my Christmas tree.

We blend it and mash it all up.

But Hanukkah can easily get overshadowed by Christmas traditions of carols and Santa and Christmas lights.

So I feel a little protective of Hanukkah because it already gets the short end of the stick:

  • Hanukkah gets a tiny end cap at Target rather than 12 aisles that are up before Halloween is over.
  • There isn’t a radio station that plays Hanukkah songs starting in November.
  • There’s definitely no hilarious Hanukkah movies I have to watch or a sweet Hanukkah ballet I take my kids to every year.
  • And there’s no way the Mensch on the Bench will ever be as cool as the Elf on the Shelf.

Hanukkah will never compete with Christmas. It’s not intended to.

But, I want to find ways to make Hanukkah more meaningful, more memorable, and more special.

Related: 8 Days of Hanukkah Kindness Countdown Calendar 

So on those 8 days of Hanukkah, my family refrains from most things Christmas to focus on the Festival of Lights. To celebrate our December miracle. To instill our Jewish traditions in our kids.

8 Ways to Make Hanukkah More Meaningful. Ideas and traditions for your family to start this year #Hanukkah #menorah #decembertraditions

8 Ways to Make Hanukkah More Meaningful:

1. Light the Candles Every Night (Even if You’re Busy!)

When my kids were younger it was easy to forget to the light our menorah every night.  Life was busy and we were treading water to get through the day. But now that my kids are older, there’s no way they would let me forget. If you don’t have kids reminding you, an easy way to remember is to keep the menorah on the kitchen table for 8 days.

Don’t have a menorah yet? There’s a Hanukkah in a kit that comes with everything you need to get started!

As soon as we felt comfortable, we let our children light the menorah. And they always rotate who gets to pick out the candles and put them in.

Make Hanukkah more meaningful by letting your kids light the menorah #hanukkah #menorah

Our other big challenge is lighting the menorah when we’re not home. Before we discovered this awesome pocket travel menorah we take with us (it uses birthday candles!), we would pack candles and a tub of Play-doh. My daughter would roll the play-doh into 8 little balls and one slightly bigger ball and we had a kid-friendly on-the-go menorah.

We’ve lit our on-the-go menorah at friends’ houses, the mall food court, and even at Disneyland.

Our tradition of lighting the menorah is always followed by giving our kids small gifts. Maybe that’s why they never let us forget lighting the menorah…

Eight presents can get out of hand quickly, so the presents are often small or shared. They usually get the newest Disney movie, a new board game, or a new Hanukkah book. One year they got marshmallow roasters for our new fire pit and then got impatient for an actual fire.

Hanukkah more meaningful with special gifts each night. #hanukkah #menorahlighting

To focus on the spirit of giving, my girlfriend has her kids choose a gift at the store they donate to a local toy drive instead of receiving a present that night.

2. Read Hanukkah Books to Make Hanukkah More Meaningful 

There are so many incredible Hanukkah books, especially with the introduction of the PJ Library (get free Judaica books mailed to you every month!) We read at least one Hanukkah book every night of Hanukkah. Plus these books make excellent Hanukkah gifts.

Here are a few of our favorite Hanukkah books:

The Night Before Hanukkah: 

0448481405

Hanukkah Lights: 

0763630292

Hanukkah A Counting Book:

0545214076

Where is Baby’s Dreidel?

1416936238

Related: For 70 more book ideas and Hanukkah gifts, click here. 

And I love these Interfaith books if your family celebrates Hanukkah and Christmas:

Daddy Christmas, Hanukkah Mama:

0375860932

My Two Holidays: 

0545235154

My Two Grandmothers:

0152007857

3. Start a Dreidel Contest After Dinner

I have an obscene dreidel collection. I have wooden ones and hot pink plastic ones and a baseball one. It’s ridiculous and gaudy and I love it. Maybe it’s because I get so excited when I actually find them in stores, I feel the need to buy them all up.

Not sure how to play dreidel? Here are the instructions.

If you have older kids, teach them how to spin a dreidel upside down. It will get them to stop flipping bottles and try a new skill.

Or you can see who can spin the dreidel the longest. Hint: the heavier wooden ones usually win.

Making Hanukkah more memorable with a dreidel spinning contest #hanukkah #dreidel

4. Share the Joy of Hanukkah with Others

People who don’t know about Hanukkah are often confused by it.

Related: 8 Things You Need to Know About Hanukkah

I firmly believe it is our job to help teach others who want to learn how we celebrate. Information helps reduce indifference and bigotry and hate. Information teaches tolerance, and understanding, and love.

So we invite neighbors and friends over every year who don’t celebrate Hanukkah. If I’m feeling ambitious, I make latkes. But we teach everyone how to play dreidel and we light all the menorahs we own.  The kids who come, leave with their very own plastic dreidel and it’s always the hit of the party.

Making Hanukkah more meaningful by sharing it with neighbors who don't celebrate. #hanukkah #menorahlighting

Offer to teach the dreidel game in your kids’ classrooms. Many teachers welcome the chance to showcase cultures from around the world.

The year we lit our menorah at Disneyland, a mom at the other table asked if her son could watch so he could learn a little bit more about Hanukkah. Um, absolutely.

5.  Make Hanukkah Crafts

Your kids will most likely not be coming home with any cute Hanukkah crafts from school. My kids never have. So we make our own.

We love making this Menorah pointillism art project.

paint the fire on the menorah

And this sewing dreidel project. 

Teach your kids how to sew with this hanukkah dreidel sewing craft #hanukkahcraft #dreidelcraft #sewingproject #coffeeandcarpool #Hanukkah #Hanukkahcraft

But we also really love these 8 Acts of Hanukkah Kindness Paper Chain. 

Link the kindness chains together to create the Hanukkah Kindness Countdown Calendar. #Hanukkah #bekind

One year I gave my daughter a candle making kit and we used those beeswax candles in our menorah.

We’ve also painted these wooden dreidels and we’ve decorated a board to catch the wax drips from our menorah so we protect our table.

And one year, we went to Home Depot and made menorahs out of wood, nuts, and small tiles.

How to make Hanukkah more meaningful? Make your own menorahs #Hanukkah #menorah

Related: 12 Hanukkah Crafts to Make Hanukkah More Meaningful 

6. Make or buy Hanukkah food to make Hanukkah More Meaningful 

Jewish holidays are all about the food, and Hanukkah is no exception.

Since Hanukkah celebrates the miracle of the oil lasting eight nights, we fry latkes at least once, (but usually twice because they’re my absolute favorite.)

Not sure how to make latkes? Here are a few recipes you can try. 

Make Hanukkah more meaningful by making latkes #Hanukkah #latkes

We also used to make jelly donuts at home until we found a food allergy safe donut shop to buy them. My kids love eating sufganiyot to celebrate like the Israelis do.

We’ve made marshmallow dreidels,  fig newton dreidels, and menorah shaped sugar cookies with blue frosting.

Because we have to make sure Hanukkah tastes good.

7. Create a Hanukkah music playlist and teach your kids the songs

I’m listening to Christmas carols as I type this. No really. I love Christmas carols. And they’re everywhere.

So to balance it out, we make sure to also play great Hanukkah songs so our kids get familiar with and love them too.

Here are my favorite songs:

Hanukkah Dance by Woody Guthrie

Light One Candle by Peter, Paul and Mary

Hanukkah Blessings by The Schneiderman Sisters and Friends

Kindle a Candle of Light by Dan Crow

Chanukkah Blessing by Dan Crow

Sevivon by Dan Crow

Happy Joyous Hanukkah by The Indigo Girls

Take a Potato by Margie Rosenthal & Ilene Safyan

I’m Spending Hanukkah in Santa Monica by Tom Lehrer

Chanukah Sing-Along Medley by Rabbi Joe Black

Judah Maccabee by Rabbi Joe Black

Eight Nights of Joy by Rabbi Joe Black

My Dreydel by Raffi

Hanukkah, Oh Hanukkah by the Bare Naked Ladies

and of course, The Hanukkah Song by Adam Sandler (not suitable for kids)

8. Connect with other families who celebrate Hanukkah

We now live in a neighborhood where there are very few Jewish families. But being so far away from our family, it’s important to connect with others who celebrate Hanukkah too.

We make sure to light our menorah over Facetime at least one of the 8 nights so we’re lighting our menorah with our family across the country.

Celebrating Hanukkah with family is a simple way to make Hanukkah more meaningful. #Hanukkah #menorah

If you live closer to family, invite them over and throw a Hanukkah dinner. If you don’t want to make dinner and deal with the latke frying, light the menorah together.

Search your town for a Hanukkah festival. The local Chabad usually hosts one that is open to the community. Attend your temple’s Hanukkah party or check to see if there’s a menorah lighting at your mall or town center.

Surrounding myself with the Jewish community always makes me feel more connected to Hanukkah itself.

And surrounding yourself with people who believe what you believe and celebrate what you celebrate is a joyous way to enjoy the Festival of Lights.

Bonus 9. Focus on Hanukkah Kindness

There are many ways to be a mensch during Hanukkah. 

We love practicing being kind before the holiday with these Hanukkah Kindness Role Playing Cards. 

Use these Hanukkah kindness role playing cards to help intentionally teach kids to be kind and giving them time to practice.

We also countdown the eight nights of Hanukkah and do one kind act each day. 

And instead of gettting 8 gifts, you can give gifts to others. 

Many families give eight nights of gifts to their children. We do.

Small trinkets, books, a family movie.

But instead of 8 nights of gifts, we take one night off and give instead of get. On one of the 8 nights, instead of giving our kids a present, we help them figure out a way to give back. As a family, we choose a cause near and dear to our hearts and give in a meaningful way.

Not sure what to choose? Try one of these ways to give back.

As a family, you can purchase things for a shelter or on a children’s hospital wish list or buy groceries for the food bank.

Related: How to Help Kids Focus on Giving Rather Than Wanting

Helps kids battle the gimmes and focus on giving with this Things I want/Things I want to Give away Printable, perfect for Christmas, Hanukkah and birthdays

It can be small, it can be big.

But the act of giving is more important than getting one more small trinket.

And it sure beats the Mensch on the Bench.

8 Ways to Make Hanukkah More Meaningful. Ideas and traditions for your family to start this year #Hanukkah #menorah #decembertraditions

8 Ways to Make Hanukkah More Meaningful. Ideas and traditions for your family to start this year #Hanukkah #menorah #decembertraditions

8 Ways to Make Hanukkah More Meaningful for your kids. Whether you celebrate just Hanukkah or Christmas and Hanukkah, these ideas will focus on making Hanukkah more special. www.coffeeandcarpool.com #Hanukkah #Hanukkahtraditions

8 Ways to Make Hanukkah More Meaningful for your kids. Whether you celebrate just Hanukkah or Christmas and Hanukkah, these ideas will focus on making Hanukkah more special. www.coffeeandcarpool.com #Hanukkah #Hanukkahtraditions

8 Ways to Make Hanukkah More Meaningful for your kids. Whether you celebrate just Hanukkah or Christmas and Hanukkah, these ideas will focus on making Hanukkah more special. www.coffeeandcarpool.com #Hanukkah #Hanukkahtraditions


Hanukkah crafts for kids are a fun way for families and kids to celebrate Hanukkah each December. #Hanukkah #Chanukkah #Hanukkahcraftsforkids #Hanukkahactivitiesforkids #Hanukkahcraftideas #coffeeandcarpool #judaicacrafts

Here’s a list of over 70 gift ideas to celebrate Hanukkah.

Do your kids get Hanukkah gifts? Help them write meaningful thank you notes for their new gifts! 

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  1. Menucha says

    November 29, 2017 at 6:16 pm

    Thanks for writing this – it’s all about the original traditions! As someone who celebrates only Hanukkah, it can be tough reading an entire magazine full of Christmas ideas, and when there’s finally something for Hanukkah, they mess upon something that should have been easy to check up – such as inventing brand new Hebrew letters for the dreidels 😉 I loved this post!

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    • Nicole Black says

      November 30, 2017 at 1:45 pm

      I hear you! I celebrate Christmas and I still get annoyed about how little Hanukkah gets in the world.

      Reply
  2. Nicole | The Professional Mom Project says

    December 14, 2017 at 12:08 pm

    Love these ideas! Thanks so much for sharing your Hanukkah traditions. I too am a Jewish girl who celebrates Hanukkah but loves Christmas lol so I understand where you’re coming from. Happy holidays to you and your family.

    Reply
  3. Karen Britell says

    November 2, 2020 at 12:27 pm

    I LOVED this, thank you!

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    • Nicole Black says

      November 2, 2020 at 3:37 pm

      You’re so welcome!

      Reply
  4. Tara says

    November 28, 2020 at 4:52 am

    Thank you, as a girl who converted a few years ago when my husband and I were engaged, I’m still learning all about Hanukkah. We’re in Arizona so not too many places that celebrate or people who are Jewish.
    We both love Christmas as well.
    Thanks again for all the ideas.

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